love thermostat

'Choice Relationship - the course for everyone who wants to love and be loved.' That is how we introduce the course you participate in with Charlotte Fruergaard and Teresa Perez.

The course could have been subtitled, 'Find your inner love thermostat' because a big part of the course is about discovering those mechanisms (the thermostat) that block love, so you can get them loosened up and get love to flow again.

We all have unconscious patterns that determine how we operate in a love relationship. These patterns function as a thermostat: they are set to a particular temperature and, no matter what the circumstances, if the temperature reaches that level, a destructive sub-routine will kick in to sabotage your love life.

We all have these patterns, and they stop us choosing freely. One part of us wants the best for us - a fulfilling love life - while another part of us is working on repeating old patterns, nursing old wounds. The wonderful thing is that, when you see the full picture, it loses its power. The truth will set you free.

Try a simple version for yourself:

Choose from this drop-down list what you are most likely to do for your partner as an expression of your love (choose only the one you value the most).